Quiet Revolution: The Mirror Check

We usually approach a disagreement like a courtroom trial. We’ve gathered our evidence, prepared our closing statement, and pronounced the other person guilty before they’ve even opened their mouth. We want to be right, but more than that, we want to win. But the "Art of Disagreement" doesn't start with the other person's errors. It starts with a mirror. When we are in "attack mode," we lose the ability to see the human being across from us. We stop seeking truth and start seeking victory at any cost.

Key Scripture: Matthew 7:5 (NIV) — "You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye."

The "plank" isn't just a metaphor for a big sin; it’s a metaphor for our bias. When we have a plank in our eye, our vision is distorted. We see the other person as an obstacle rather than a child of God. We are so busy protecting our ego that we can't see the truth even if it’s standing right in front of us. To "check the mirror" means asking: What am I bringing into this room that is making it harder to find peace? Real maturity begins when we realize the hardest person to manage in any conflict is the one wearing our own shoes.

The Challenge: Before you engage in your next difficult conversation, ask yourself: Am I listening to understand, or am I just waiting for my turn to speak? Would I rather be "right" and alone, or "wrong" and in community?