Hard Talk #5: Biblical Submission (The Strength of Under-Girding)

In a world that prizes "standing your ground," "climbing the ladder," and "looking out for number one," the word submission feels like a threat. We’ve been conditioned to view it through the lens of power dynamics—who is on top and who is on the bottom. But biblical submission isn't about power; it’s about order, trust, and the imitation of Christ.

The Hard Look

Our culture views submission as a loss of identity or a sign of inferiority. We fight for our "rights" and our "seat at the table." But when we look at Jesus, we see something radically different.

Jesus—the King of the Universe—willingly submitted Himself to the Father’s will, even to the point of a cross. Was He weak? No. Was He inferior? No. He used His power to under-gird others rather than to over-power them.

Biblical submission is a "mutual" calling (Ephesians 5:21). It is the act of voluntarily placing our preferences, our egos, and our "rights" under the authority of God and the needs of others. It isn't being a doormat; it is being a foundation. A doormat is stepped on because it's passive; a foundation is built upon because it is strong enough to hold the weight of the structure above it.

The Path Forward: Reclaiming the Strength

1. Define the "Who" and "Why": We don't submit to people because they are perfect; we submit to God’s designated order because we trust His character. Where in your life are you resisting authority simply because of your own pride?

2. Practice "Preference-Dropping": This week, look for one small opportunity to let someone else have their way when it doesn't violate a moral principle. Choose the other restaurant. Let someone else lead the meeting. Practice the "muscle" of not needing to be in control.

3. The Servant-Leader Check: If you are in a position of authority (at home, work, or church), remember that biblical authority exists to serve those under it. Ask yourself: "Am I using my position to make myself look big, or to make those around

   me feel secure?"

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